A letter I wrote recently to my children (edited for length). I pray it is a blessing to you, as well. If you have some words of wisdom you’d like to share, I would love to hear from you! Let’s talk – you know – between friends. 🙂
My precious children ~
This world is confusing. Noisy with congestion of thought and opinions that make it hard at times to know truth from falsity. The newest revelations demand to be hailed; but ground your understanding in God’s truth, and it will guide you always.
You will make mistakes. That’s part of life. Learn from them, and they won’t have been wasted.
Water the flowers. Enjoy God’s beauty. Be wary of your own. Do not let vanity be your downfall. Do not get too caught up in pleasing yourself, but lavish on others.
Love. Like. Avoid. Never hate, unless it is directed at Sin, not Sinners. We all have need of compassion, forgiveness and second chances. Be sure to offer all.
Find comfort in knowing that God knows the truth. Always. About everything. It will free you from the urge to fix everybody and everything.
Spend time more carefully than you would gold – money can be earned, Time alone is parceled in lots that cannot be purchased.
Swift is the Unexpected – it comes rushing in… don’t fear, but make the most of what you’ve been given.
Be aware that jumping out to frighten people can come back to haunt you.
Laugh deliciously… the kind where you roll on the floor in tremendous mirth feels the very best.
Tears are not to be feared. Nor scorned. In fact, tears can release pent up emotions … allow yourself a periodic cleansing, if needed.
Don’t skimp on good sleep nor good food. They are the fuels that drive the human body.
Use wrinkle cream.
Regrets are best avoided by applying wisdom and good sense.
Having said that, don’t let past regrets dominate your present or your future. It’s a tremendous waste of time and energy. Learn and move on. God can use both good and bad to shape us, if we let Him.
Balance is best achieved by putting God first, and letting everything else fall into line behind Him.
Good dental and hygienic care will never be out of fashion. If they are, don’t you participate.
Learn to do activities you don’t think you’ll enjoy: spending time with those you love is worth sacrificing your own pleasures. And who knows? You may discover a new interest.
Take up a new hobby periodically… the world is spilling over with a magnificent array of activities to enjoy, and you will be a more interesting person.
Appreciate diversity. God in His glorious splendor made people unique… we all bring a fresh perspective.
Listen with a heart that aims to please God and love people.
Discussion is best done by listening well, then speaking if you have something worthwhile to add.
If you’re not sure if you should say something, go with that impulse. It’s easier to stay silent than to take back a hasty word.
Read good books. Enrich your mind.
Kindness is never wrong.
Don’t worry… it does no good and robs you of joy.
Live cleanly, but partake in small indulgences – denying all delights will not help you embrace the understanding of God’s lavishness. He made the cocoa bean just as He made broccoli.
Do a thorough clean out periodically- just give stuff away. It blesses others and releases you from the burden of having to care for so much.
Gain wisdom from God’s Word. Gain empathy from observing those hurting around you. If you are able to, alleviate the suffering of others. But recognize that God has His purposes in allowing pain in life, as well. His Sovereignty should be our comfort.
Be charitable, hospitable, loving and loyal.
Develop a few skills that you can quickly employ to bless others – a meal, a dessert, a Bible verse memorized, a stash of cards to mail- think and plan ahead.
Trust is a precious gift: do not trample any given to you.
Never be too rushed to see the beauty around you. Loveliness in all its forms come from God’s good hand. Let His poetry speak to your heart and the richness of His beautiful creation dazzle your soul.
Never be afraid to sing out loud and let your voice mingle with that of the angels.
Cultivate a myriad of interests that express your uniqueness and you will never be bored.
Keep an eye out for the lonely.
Simple action is better than eloquent emptiness.
Kindness to animals is a must.
Never harm others on purpose.
Live purposefully. Set goals. Aim for some things and don’t let naysayers deny you your dreams.
Embrace whimsy. It is a light hearted innocence that can turn dreary days into delight.
A sincere apology is quickly done. Asking forgiveness is the best way to discover if your apology was accepted.
Look people in the eye when you speak to them, but do not stare at those who are different from you.
Learn to see people’s hearts from their actions, before you judge based on their outside.
When you fail, do not quit. Attempting and failing is part of the human experience, and it brings more of a thrill to finally Succeeding.
Ask God’s guidance before you rise, for His mercy and loving kindness. Spend time daily with Him and marvel in the awesome fact that The Almighty wishes to have a relationship with us!
Wipe your feet at the door and save yourself unnecessary work.
Only find shortcuts that don’t jeopardize quality. Remember – Excellence in all you do- do not hasten. Don’t worry, God has already measured out all the days needed for you to get done whatever He’s called you to do, so take time to do things well and as unto Him.
Remember back to those who have helped you and acknowledge with affection all who walk alongside you. Take time to say Thank You. We are all on the journey- be patient.
Learn a few good jokes that can be pulled out as needed.
Make your bed each day. It will get you started in the right direction.
There is a difference in Being and Becoming. Being is how one is; becoming allows for growth and change… Be someone who is Becoming more like Jesus.
Use the time you’ve been given to share with others — if you’ve found something that brings a smile, or relief, hope or help, a joy or a sweet encouragement – share it. Keeping something for oneself alone can never bring the soul satisfaction that God designed that sharing can.
My final hope is this: knowing how much I love you and treasure the gift that parenting each of you has been, will you show me this last kindness and forget anything I may have said or done, that didn’t line up with these words here? My prayer is that you would see my heart for you, and forgive my foibles and shortcomings, remembering only the deep love I have for you, and that in your mind, you might preserve just the good, and with a gentle puff of breath, blow away any hurts that may linger from past foolishness on my part. Know this – I love you. I say to you now, if I could go back and do it all again, I would, with a hearty “Amen!”, and with great delight for such a chance as to relive this life with you, my precious ones.
Keep your chin up and your eyes fixed on Jesus, do not forget what you’ve been entrusted with – a heritage that points to Jesus as our only hope and Savior. Do not squander what you’ve been given. And remember this: we will glory in heaven together forever.
All my love to each of you– Mom
For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice; upright men will see his face. Psalm 11:7